Taken from http://www.expectantmothersguide.com/library/connecticut/ECThormones.htm
A woman's first pregnancy is one of the most exciting and dramatic events of her life. As conception progresses to implantation, and an embryo eventually becomes the fetus that ultimately will be the highly anticipated bundle of joy, numerous changes take place within the woman's body to enable this miraculous process to occur. While a woman's physical changes may be obvious, several other ones may be subtle, including a growing sense of immense emotional attachment and reprioritization. The vast majority of these changes are attributable to the hormones of pregnancy.
The first trimester of pregnancy begins with conception. As egg and sperm unite, and the conceptus implants into the endometrium or uterine lining, a hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG) is produced. HCG has a very predictable rise in the early weeks of pregnancy and peaks around 70 days. HCG is thought to support the pregnancy by ensuring ovarian production of progesterone until the placenta is well formed around the tenth week. HCG is thought to be the hormone responsible for a number of symptoms associated with early pregnancy, namely nausea and resultant vomiting and the sometimes overwhelming fatigue that can plague the very early expectant woman.
Progesterone is one of the major hormones of pregnancy and is primarily produced by the placenta. Levels of progesterone in the body rise as pregnancy progresses. Progesterone functions to inhibit the smooth muscle in the uterus from contracting and decreases prostaglandin formation, both of which allow the fetus to grow with the expanding uterus. As progesterone levels increase, other smooth muscle in the body may also be affected, such as that in the lower esophageal sphincter, which results in increased heartburn and acid reflux, especially in the later stages of pregnancy. Progesterone softens cartilage as well and may be responsible for the commonly occurring hip and pubic bone pain that also occurs. This hormone also can cause tenderness in the breasts early on and the bloated feeling many women experience throughout pregnancy.
Estrogens also increase during pregnancy and are also produced primarily by the placenta. Among other functions, estrogens increase uterine blood flow. Prolactin, the hormone that allows for lactation postpartum, also increases throughout pregnancy, and its production is thought to be stimulated by increasing levels of estrogens.
The rise in estrogen, as well as progesterone and other hormones in pregnancy, is also in part responsible for the magnification of emotions a pregnant woman experiences. Increased circulating levels intensify the myriad of feelings a pregnant woman has. The joy of being pregnant may often move a woman to tears. Anxiety in regard to how a woman may feel about herself and the way her body is changing is normal, and her concerns regarding her own health and the health of the fetus are paramount. Anticipation of the new role of being a mother and the changes a new baby will bring to the family may be overwhelming. The pregnant woman should be encouraged and supported by her spouse, family, and health care providers in all her concerns.
After delivery, hormone levels rapidly decrease, and their fall may contribute to postpartum adjustment issues and postpartum depression. During this time, it is very important that the new mother be aware that being overwhelmed is normal to some extent, but if these feelings are pervasive, she should seek medical attention. Occasionally, very low dose hormone replacement may be of help, as can antidepressants.
A newborn in its mother's arms is the result of an incredible orchestration of numerous events, many of which are primarily the result of the vital role hormones play in pregnancy. Talk to your health care provider about any questions or concerns you may have regarding the role of hormones in pregnancy, and he or she will be happy to elaborate.
Editorial provided by Anandi Subramanian, MD. Dr. Subramanian is a practicing OB-GYN in Norwalk, CT. She is with Women's Health Care of New England and has offices in Norwalk, New Canaan, and Ridgefield, CT.
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Thursday, July 30, 2009
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Postpartum Depression, great tips.
This article was taken from www.thediaperlady.com I have also read Elizabeth Pantley’s book, The No-Cry Sleep Solution. I posted this article to again show that PPD shows itself in so many different forms. It is an illness. I have been having so many women write to me and I just again wanted to point out that this is an ILLNESS. Do not be afraid to talk about it, let others know what you are feeling. My PPD got so bad I was afraid to say anything because I thought I would be judged and my baby would be taken away from me. I am not afraid to tell my story now to help others. Please, talk about your feelings, see you doctor! There is so much help out there and you are not alone.
Postpartum Depression
By Elizabeth Pantley, author of Gentle Baby Care and The No-Cry Sleep Solution
QUESTION: I know that it’s normal to have the “baby blues” right after you have a baby, but my son is six weeks old. I thought everything would be wonderful by now and I would be so in love with my baby. I thought mothering would come easily. It’s not that way at all! I can’t sleep, even when he’s sleeping. I feel hollow inside, like the real me is gone. Sometimes I cry for hours; other times, I feel angry enough to explode. Life feels like an endless amusement park ride, and sometimes I just want to get off. Why am I such a terrible mother?
Learn about it
You’re not a terrible mother! You are a mother who is suffering from a condition known as postpartum depression, a condition that is treatable. While as many as 80% of mothers experience a temporary and mild condition referred to as the baby blues, up to 15% of women have the more severe reaction you’re experiencing. Having PPD doesn’t mean that you have done something wrong, or that something is wrong with you; it is an illness and it can be cured. Once you learn more about what’s causing your despondent emotions and take some steps toward treatment, you’ll be on the road to finding yourself again and enjoying your baby.
What is postpartum depression?
PPD is a medical condition - a specific type of depression that occurs within the first few months after childbirth. It is caused by the biochemical and hormonal changes that happen in the body after pregnancy and birth…nothing that is within your control.
What are the symptoms of postpartum depression? While PPD affects all women differently, a few typical symptoms can help your physician make the diagnosis. You probably are not experiencing everything on the following list, and the degree of symptoms may range from mild to severe, but if a number of these apply to you, you may be suffering from PPD.
Symptoms of postpartum depression may include but are not limited to:
Feeling hopeless, worthless or inadequate
Frequent crying or tearfulness
Insomnia or sleepiness
Lack of energy
Loss of pleasure in activities you normally enjoy
Difficulty doing typical daily chores
Loss of appetite
Feelings of sadness and despair
Feelings of guilt, panic or confusion
Feelings of anger or anxiety
Extreme mood swings
Memory loss
Over concern for baby
Fear of “losing control”
Lack of interest in sex
Worrying that you may hurt your baby
A desire to escape from your baby or your family
Withdrawal from social circles and routines
Thoughts about hurting yourself
If you suffer from extreme degrees of any of these symptoms, particularly thoughts about hurting yourself or your baby, or if you have additional physical symptoms such as hallucinations, confusion or paranoia, then please call a doctor today. NOW. Your condition requires immediate medical care. If you can’t make the call, then please talk to your partner, your mother or father, a sibling or close friend and ask them to help you arrange for help. Do this for yourself and for your baby. If you can’t talk about it, rip this page out and hand it to someone close to you. It’s that important. You do not have to feel this way.
What can a doctor do about postpartum depression?
As with any form of depression, help is available and only as far away as your healthcare provider - contact your ob/gyn or midwife to start with, if that’s most comfortable for you. She can help you get the professional care you need from someone who has experience dealing with this condition. In the longer term, it’s important that your therapy take place with a professional who has experience in treating PPD; the malady is different from other forms of depression, and it is very specifically related to your role as a new mother.
PARENT TIP: “In the time it takes you to read this chapter, you could set up an appointment with a doctor. Remember, this is a medical problem and it can be serious; for your sake, for your baby, and for all those who love you, you must make that call. With help, you will regain your life and your perspective." Vanessa, mother of Kimmy (12) Tyler (10) Rachel (5) and Zachary (3)
A visit to a doctor for the symptoms you’re feeling is nothing to fear. Your condition is something your doctor has seen before so you need not feel at all self-conscious. As for treatment, there are a variety of options, depending on how severe your symptoms are. Your doctor will evaluate your condition and may suggest medication, such as antidepressants. (Make sure that you let him know if you are breastfeeding so that the proper medication can be prescribed.) In addition, he will tell you that therapy and support are critical for recovery.
What can I do about PPD?
The first step you can take is to understand that you have an illness that requires action on your part so you can heal. Forgive me for repeating this, but it is important: Take that first step and call a doctor. In addition, the following things can help you begin to feel better right away:
Talk to someone. Whom do you trust? Whom do you feel comfortable talking to? This might be your spouse or partner, it might be your mother, your sister or brother or a friend. It can really help to share your feelings with someone who cares about you. Even if you feel you can’t talk specifically about PPD, just discuss your feelings and your new role as a mother and its effects on you.
Read books about baby care and parenting. Knowledge is power. Reading may help you feel more confident, which in turn will help you feel more in control of your situation. It will also give you the knowledge you’ll need to ward off the unwanted advice or criticism that can come your way during the early months of parenting, and that can be especially hard to take when you are feeling depressed.
Join a support group. PPD support groups allow mothers who are dealing with depression to talk with others who have similar feelings. A list at the end of this section can help you find a group in your area. You might also call your health care provider, your local hospital, or your church for information. While PPD support groups are an excellent choice, any group for new mothers in which you can share your feelings about motherhood can help you feel better about yourself. Choose your support group with care, as you’ll want to be around people who support your parenting decisions. Being with a group who criticizes or questions your mothering choices will make you feel worse, not better. Conversely, spending your time with like-minded people will boost your self-confidence and help you feel more confident as a mother. This idea shouldn’t be seen s a cure, but rather one part of the process of recovery.
Accept help from others. If anyone offers to help you - whether it is to take your baby for a walk, cook a meal, or drive your older kids to sports practice - accept! Learn to say yes. You don’t have to do everything to be a good mother. It’s natural for human beings to lean on each other, so go ahead and do a little more leaning.
Get some extra sleep. Put your efforts to get your baby to sleep through the night on hold right now; this will come in time. Forget about the clock. Just sleep - both of you - whenever you can. Extra sleep will help you feel better.
Relax your standards. This is not the time to worry about a spotless house, gourmet meals, the corporate ladder, or your manicure. Try to stick to the basics and concentrate on yourself and your baby.
Get some fresh air. When possible, put your baby in the sling or the stroller and take a walk. The exercise and open spaces will help you feel more energized. Try to work a daily stroll into your schedule. If you have older children, walk them to school. If the weather isn’t suitable for outdoor walking, then drive to a shopping mall for an indoor walk.
Feed yourself healthy foods. You can eat properly without much effort. Focus on fresh fruits and vegetables, and simple but nutritious meals. And eat frequently. Going long stretches without food wreaks havoc on your system. Simple snacks like an apple with peanut butter, a bagel, or yogurt with cottage cheese are easy to prepare and prevent your blood sugar from dipping and adding to your feelings of depression. Continue to take vitamins, and drink plenty of water.
Love yourself. You are going to be okay. Take it one step at a time…but do take steps (such as those outlined in this section). With help and time, you’ll develop a refreshing and healthy outlook on your new role as a mother.
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Postpartum Depression
By Elizabeth Pantley, author of Gentle Baby Care and The No-Cry Sleep Solution
QUESTION: I know that it’s normal to have the “baby blues” right after you have a baby, but my son is six weeks old. I thought everything would be wonderful by now and I would be so in love with my baby. I thought mothering would come easily. It’s not that way at all! I can’t sleep, even when he’s sleeping. I feel hollow inside, like the real me is gone. Sometimes I cry for hours; other times, I feel angry enough to explode. Life feels like an endless amusement park ride, and sometimes I just want to get off. Why am I such a terrible mother?
Learn about it
You’re not a terrible mother! You are a mother who is suffering from a condition known as postpartum depression, a condition that is treatable. While as many as 80% of mothers experience a temporary and mild condition referred to as the baby blues, up to 15% of women have the more severe reaction you’re experiencing. Having PPD doesn’t mean that you have done something wrong, or that something is wrong with you; it is an illness and it can be cured. Once you learn more about what’s causing your despondent emotions and take some steps toward treatment, you’ll be on the road to finding yourself again and enjoying your baby.
What is postpartum depression?
PPD is a medical condition - a specific type of depression that occurs within the first few months after childbirth. It is caused by the biochemical and hormonal changes that happen in the body after pregnancy and birth…nothing that is within your control.
What are the symptoms of postpartum depression? While PPD affects all women differently, a few typical symptoms can help your physician make the diagnosis. You probably are not experiencing everything on the following list, and the degree of symptoms may range from mild to severe, but if a number of these apply to you, you may be suffering from PPD.
Symptoms of postpartum depression may include but are not limited to:
Feeling hopeless, worthless or inadequate
Frequent crying or tearfulness
Insomnia or sleepiness
Lack of energy
Loss of pleasure in activities you normally enjoy
Difficulty doing typical daily chores
Loss of appetite
Feelings of sadness and despair
Feelings of guilt, panic or confusion
Feelings of anger or anxiety
Extreme mood swings
Memory loss
Over concern for baby
Fear of “losing control”
Lack of interest in sex
Worrying that you may hurt your baby
A desire to escape from your baby or your family
Withdrawal from social circles and routines
Thoughts about hurting yourself
If you suffer from extreme degrees of any of these symptoms, particularly thoughts about hurting yourself or your baby, or if you have additional physical symptoms such as hallucinations, confusion or paranoia, then please call a doctor today. NOW. Your condition requires immediate medical care. If you can’t make the call, then please talk to your partner, your mother or father, a sibling or close friend and ask them to help you arrange for help. Do this for yourself and for your baby. If you can’t talk about it, rip this page out and hand it to someone close to you. It’s that important. You do not have to feel this way.
What can a doctor do about postpartum depression?
As with any form of depression, help is available and only as far away as your healthcare provider - contact your ob/gyn or midwife to start with, if that’s most comfortable for you. She can help you get the professional care you need from someone who has experience dealing with this condition. In the longer term, it’s important that your therapy take place with a professional who has experience in treating PPD; the malady is different from other forms of depression, and it is very specifically related to your role as a new mother.
PARENT TIP: “In the time it takes you to read this chapter, you could set up an appointment with a doctor. Remember, this is a medical problem and it can be serious; for your sake, for your baby, and for all those who love you, you must make that call. With help, you will regain your life and your perspective." Vanessa, mother of Kimmy (12) Tyler (10) Rachel (5) and Zachary (3)
A visit to a doctor for the symptoms you’re feeling is nothing to fear. Your condition is something your doctor has seen before so you need not feel at all self-conscious. As for treatment, there are a variety of options, depending on how severe your symptoms are. Your doctor will evaluate your condition and may suggest medication, such as antidepressants. (Make sure that you let him know if you are breastfeeding so that the proper medication can be prescribed.) In addition, he will tell you that therapy and support are critical for recovery.
What can I do about PPD?
The first step you can take is to understand that you have an illness that requires action on your part so you can heal. Forgive me for repeating this, but it is important: Take that first step and call a doctor. In addition, the following things can help you begin to feel better right away:
Talk to someone. Whom do you trust? Whom do you feel comfortable talking to? This might be your spouse or partner, it might be your mother, your sister or brother or a friend. It can really help to share your feelings with someone who cares about you. Even if you feel you can’t talk specifically about PPD, just discuss your feelings and your new role as a mother and its effects on you.
Read books about baby care and parenting. Knowledge is power. Reading may help you feel more confident, which in turn will help you feel more in control of your situation. It will also give you the knowledge you’ll need to ward off the unwanted advice or criticism that can come your way during the early months of parenting, and that can be especially hard to take when you are feeling depressed.
Join a support group. PPD support groups allow mothers who are dealing with depression to talk with others who have similar feelings. A list at the end of this section can help you find a group in your area. You might also call your health care provider, your local hospital, or your church for information. While PPD support groups are an excellent choice, any group for new mothers in which you can share your feelings about motherhood can help you feel better about yourself. Choose your support group with care, as you’ll want to be around people who support your parenting decisions. Being with a group who criticizes or questions your mothering choices will make you feel worse, not better. Conversely, spending your time with like-minded people will boost your self-confidence and help you feel more confident as a mother. This idea shouldn’t be seen s a cure, but rather one part of the process of recovery.
Accept help from others. If anyone offers to help you - whether it is to take your baby for a walk, cook a meal, or drive your older kids to sports practice - accept! Learn to say yes. You don’t have to do everything to be a good mother. It’s natural for human beings to lean on each other, so go ahead and do a little more leaning.
Get some extra sleep. Put your efforts to get your baby to sleep through the night on hold right now; this will come in time. Forget about the clock. Just sleep - both of you - whenever you can. Extra sleep will help you feel better.
Relax your standards. This is not the time to worry about a spotless house, gourmet meals, the corporate ladder, or your manicure. Try to stick to the basics and concentrate on yourself and your baby.
Get some fresh air. When possible, put your baby in the sling or the stroller and take a walk. The exercise and open spaces will help you feel more energized. Try to work a daily stroll into your schedule. If you have older children, walk them to school. If the weather isn’t suitable for outdoor walking, then drive to a shopping mall for an indoor walk.
Feed yourself healthy foods. You can eat properly without much effort. Focus on fresh fruits and vegetables, and simple but nutritious meals. And eat frequently. Going long stretches without food wreaks havoc on your system. Simple snacks like an apple with peanut butter, a bagel, or yogurt with cottage cheese are easy to prepare and prevent your blood sugar from dipping and adding to your feelings of depression. Continue to take vitamins, and drink plenty of water.
Love yourself. You are going to be okay. Take it one step at a time…but do take steps (such as those outlined in this section). With help and time, you’ll develop a refreshing and healthy outlook on your new role as a mother.
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Monday, July 27, 2009
Post Adoption Depression
Article taken from www.adoption.org
Post Adoption Depression Syndromeby June Bondfrom Roots and Wings, Spring 1995
You've been through infertility hell and back again. You ran through the maze of the adoption process and you've finally reached your goal. You have your baby in your arms. You are finally a member of the "parenthood club", complete with stroller, burp pads, car seat, and mini van. The moment they put your baby in your arms, you knew what heaven felt like. As one of my former clients said, "I knew if I died on the way home, I would feel complete. "
Suddenly three or four weeks later, a strange sense of anxiety comes over you. Some clients describe the feeling as panic. Some say it is a gross feeling of inadequacy for the total responsibility for this little person. Others describe it as a "cloudy blue feeling", while others go as far as to call it a depression. What I call it is Post-Adoption Depression Syndrome, (PADS).
The general population recognizes post-partum blues as a natural and expected part of the birth process. Most people identify those feelings of anxiety with "just getting those hormones back into kilter. " But, the truth is that many adoptive parents suffer from the same post placement blues, and feel very confused when they cannot rely on the "hormone theory" to explain their feelings.
There are several other very likely reasons to explain theses common feelings shortly after the placement of the baby. Perhaps one of the most reasonable explanations is the completion of one of life's biggest goals. Parenthood has loomed as an almost unattainable goal for so many adoptive families for such a long time. Reaching that goal has required time, money, effort, emotional strain, and patience.
Suddenly the emotional rush from the attainment of this long desired goal is exhilarating. I sometimes relate the attainment of this goal to the Jewish nation reaching the promised land after forty years of struggle. How can almost anything compare ever again in terms of emotional satisfaction of finally being in the land of milk and honey. . . the land of parenthood? Likewise, how can any of us keep that level of emotional high forever?
Think back to the attainment of other life's goals that you and others around you have reached. . . completing high school, getting your college degree, marriage, getting a long desired position, completion of a major project. . . Do your remember the let down after walking across the stage at graduation and returning from your beach trip? Feelings of being "let down" are very common after reaching major life milestones.
Another reason that PADS can occur is the unique stresses of the adoption process itself. Many adoptive parents feel that they must face and sometimes resolve their feelings about infertility again with the placement of a child. Insensitive questions about your infertility and the reasons that you chose adoption can bring back a whole series of feelings that you thought may have been resolved earlier. Some adoptive families that have a close relationship with the birth mother even seem to suffer some of the grief process with her.
One client mentioned that she could not completely erase the birth mother's feelings of loss and grief with her own feelings of satisfaction and attainment. "It is almost a bitter sweet victory, " stated one recent adoptive mother. The adoption process can also bring with it certain legal uncertainties that can easily cause feelings of anxiety and depression. Unresolved birth father issues and rights are one of the most common points of post adoptive stress. Fears about the unexpected costs and newly disclosed health and background information can also trigger stress and fears.
It is important to recognize that adoptive parents also go through many of the same stress points that birth parents go through as new parents. Stress adjustment scales indicate that factors like the addition of a new family member, added financial responsibility, lack of sleep, increased family responsibilities all contribute to rising stress levels. These stresses are often enhanced with adoptive families. The cost of the adoption is usually more than the cost of a birth. Lack of sleep and increased family responsibilities are compounded with the adoptive family by the limited paid maternity leave that many companies allow for the adoption of a child.
Clearly, PADS is a real feeling for many adoptive couples. What are some suggestions that can help you as a new adoptive parent deal with these feelings?
1. Recognize that Post Adoption Depression Syndrome is common and there are several valid reasons for feeling down after your child is placed with you. This does not mean that you have made a bad decision or are different from many other new parents.
2. In focusing and sharing birth mother grief . . realize that the birth mother made a positive plan for her and her child. You are an integral part of this special plan. If you share in her feelings of loss and grief, then take positive actions to help you both feel good about the plan that has come together for the adoptive triad. Write her a letter, make her an album, make certain that she knows what a great job she has done in giving this precious gift of life to you. Recognize that her grief is a natural part ofthe healing process.
3. Being anxiety ridden about certain legal risks and unresolved/unexpected issues is often a major source of stress. As adoptive parents, we must all accept the fact that with adoption comes certain risks. But, before accepting an adoptive situation make sure that the risks are ones that you can comfortably handle. It is a good plan to keep your head in control when evaluating each potential adoption situation. Once the baby is placed in your arms, the head control is usual replaced by heart control. Ask questions and know in your head the limit that your heart can endure.
4. Go to an infant parenting seminar. These seminars are often a part of child birthing classes at most hospitals. Call your local hospital to see when a class is being offered. Some hospitals will even allow a neonatal nurse to work one on one with you to show you how to care for your new born. Added confidence can relieve some of your feelings of anxiety and inadequacy about properly caring for this little, but very demanding little bundle.
5. Arrange for time to adjust to your new status. Unfortunately, many companies do not allow adoptive parents to take paid time off. With the rising cost of adoption, many families simply cannot afford to take time away from work without pay. Consequently one alternative is to rearrange your work schedule, if possible, to be more flexible for the first six - eight weeks. Another suggestion is to make plans for food and other necessities for the initial weeks in advance. One client I knew has a casserole shower from her local dinner club. Fifteen frozen casseroles came in very handy when the new baby arrived. "I wanted to spend every available minute with the baby. Clearly cooking was a low priority for me. " stated one adoptive mother. Paperplates, utensils, and cups can also cut down on work time and give you more time to relax and adjust.
6. Many adoptive couples feel that they must be super parents. They can pick up a baby on Friday, go back to work on Monday, have a meeting on Wednesday night, keep the church nursery on Wednesday night, have gourmet club at your house for the regularly scheduled monthly meeting on Saturday night, never missing a meeting or activity- all on four hours of sleep a night. Realize that birth parents usually take six weeks off of regularly scheduled activities. This time is not just for the healing of the body, but also for adjustment and bonding to the baby. Allow yourself the same time frame to adjust. Take a sabbatical from other responsibilities for six weeks and learn to love your baby.
7. Join an adoption support group, if you have not done so already. Share your feelings with others. A former client confided that she did not feel comfortable complaining about the baby's colic and her lack of sleep. "I felt like people would say that I asked for him. . . shut up. " Adoptive parents are not superhumans. We are real parents, who get tired, irritable, and have REAL feelings. Share your feelings with another adoptive parent in the support group.
Bringing your baby home is one of the highlights in your life. It is the beginning of a long and wonderful journey called parenthood. As with most journeys, there can be detours and bumpy spots in the road. Learning where the pot holes are makes the journey a little bit smoother.
June Bond is a Certified Adoption Investigator who has published numerous articles on adoption in local, state and national publications. Mother of six chidren, four of whom are adopted, she was recently recognized as South Carolina's Adoption Advocate of the Year for 1995.
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Post Adoption Depression Syndromeby June Bondfrom Roots and Wings, Spring 1995
You've been through infertility hell and back again. You ran through the maze of the adoption process and you've finally reached your goal. You have your baby in your arms. You are finally a member of the "parenthood club", complete with stroller, burp pads, car seat, and mini van. The moment they put your baby in your arms, you knew what heaven felt like. As one of my former clients said, "I knew if I died on the way home, I would feel complete. "
Suddenly three or four weeks later, a strange sense of anxiety comes over you. Some clients describe the feeling as panic. Some say it is a gross feeling of inadequacy for the total responsibility for this little person. Others describe it as a "cloudy blue feeling", while others go as far as to call it a depression. What I call it is Post-Adoption Depression Syndrome, (PADS).
The general population recognizes post-partum blues as a natural and expected part of the birth process. Most people identify those feelings of anxiety with "just getting those hormones back into kilter. " But, the truth is that many adoptive parents suffer from the same post placement blues, and feel very confused when they cannot rely on the "hormone theory" to explain their feelings.
There are several other very likely reasons to explain theses common feelings shortly after the placement of the baby. Perhaps one of the most reasonable explanations is the completion of one of life's biggest goals. Parenthood has loomed as an almost unattainable goal for so many adoptive families for such a long time. Reaching that goal has required time, money, effort, emotional strain, and patience.
Suddenly the emotional rush from the attainment of this long desired goal is exhilarating. I sometimes relate the attainment of this goal to the Jewish nation reaching the promised land after forty years of struggle. How can almost anything compare ever again in terms of emotional satisfaction of finally being in the land of milk and honey. . . the land of parenthood? Likewise, how can any of us keep that level of emotional high forever?
Think back to the attainment of other life's goals that you and others around you have reached. . . completing high school, getting your college degree, marriage, getting a long desired position, completion of a major project. . . Do your remember the let down after walking across the stage at graduation and returning from your beach trip? Feelings of being "let down" are very common after reaching major life milestones.
Another reason that PADS can occur is the unique stresses of the adoption process itself. Many adoptive parents feel that they must face and sometimes resolve their feelings about infertility again with the placement of a child. Insensitive questions about your infertility and the reasons that you chose adoption can bring back a whole series of feelings that you thought may have been resolved earlier. Some adoptive families that have a close relationship with the birth mother even seem to suffer some of the grief process with her.
One client mentioned that she could not completely erase the birth mother's feelings of loss and grief with her own feelings of satisfaction and attainment. "It is almost a bitter sweet victory, " stated one recent adoptive mother. The adoption process can also bring with it certain legal uncertainties that can easily cause feelings of anxiety and depression. Unresolved birth father issues and rights are one of the most common points of post adoptive stress. Fears about the unexpected costs and newly disclosed health and background information can also trigger stress and fears.
It is important to recognize that adoptive parents also go through many of the same stress points that birth parents go through as new parents. Stress adjustment scales indicate that factors like the addition of a new family member, added financial responsibility, lack of sleep, increased family responsibilities all contribute to rising stress levels. These stresses are often enhanced with adoptive families. The cost of the adoption is usually more than the cost of a birth. Lack of sleep and increased family responsibilities are compounded with the adoptive family by the limited paid maternity leave that many companies allow for the adoption of a child.
Clearly, PADS is a real feeling for many adoptive couples. What are some suggestions that can help you as a new adoptive parent deal with these feelings?
1. Recognize that Post Adoption Depression Syndrome is common and there are several valid reasons for feeling down after your child is placed with you. This does not mean that you have made a bad decision or are different from many other new parents.
2. In focusing and sharing birth mother grief . . realize that the birth mother made a positive plan for her and her child. You are an integral part of this special plan. If you share in her feelings of loss and grief, then take positive actions to help you both feel good about the plan that has come together for the adoptive triad. Write her a letter, make her an album, make certain that she knows what a great job she has done in giving this precious gift of life to you. Recognize that her grief is a natural part ofthe healing process.
3. Being anxiety ridden about certain legal risks and unresolved/unexpected issues is often a major source of stress. As adoptive parents, we must all accept the fact that with adoption comes certain risks. But, before accepting an adoptive situation make sure that the risks are ones that you can comfortably handle. It is a good plan to keep your head in control when evaluating each potential adoption situation. Once the baby is placed in your arms, the head control is usual replaced by heart control. Ask questions and know in your head the limit that your heart can endure.
4. Go to an infant parenting seminar. These seminars are often a part of child birthing classes at most hospitals. Call your local hospital to see when a class is being offered. Some hospitals will even allow a neonatal nurse to work one on one with you to show you how to care for your new born. Added confidence can relieve some of your feelings of anxiety and inadequacy about properly caring for this little, but very demanding little bundle.
5. Arrange for time to adjust to your new status. Unfortunately, many companies do not allow adoptive parents to take paid time off. With the rising cost of adoption, many families simply cannot afford to take time away from work without pay. Consequently one alternative is to rearrange your work schedule, if possible, to be more flexible for the first six - eight weeks. Another suggestion is to make plans for food and other necessities for the initial weeks in advance. One client I knew has a casserole shower from her local dinner club. Fifteen frozen casseroles came in very handy when the new baby arrived. "I wanted to spend every available minute with the baby. Clearly cooking was a low priority for me. " stated one adoptive mother. Paperplates, utensils, and cups can also cut down on work time and give you more time to relax and adjust.
6. Many adoptive couples feel that they must be super parents. They can pick up a baby on Friday, go back to work on Monday, have a meeting on Wednesday night, keep the church nursery on Wednesday night, have gourmet club at your house for the regularly scheduled monthly meeting on Saturday night, never missing a meeting or activity- all on four hours of sleep a night. Realize that birth parents usually take six weeks off of regularly scheduled activities. This time is not just for the healing of the body, but also for adjustment and bonding to the baby. Allow yourself the same time frame to adjust. Take a sabbatical from other responsibilities for six weeks and learn to love your baby.
7. Join an adoption support group, if you have not done so already. Share your feelings with others. A former client confided that she did not feel comfortable complaining about the baby's colic and her lack of sleep. "I felt like people would say that I asked for him. . . shut up. " Adoptive parents are not superhumans. We are real parents, who get tired, irritable, and have REAL feelings. Share your feelings with another adoptive parent in the support group.
Bringing your baby home is one of the highlights in your life. It is the beginning of a long and wonderful journey called parenthood. As with most journeys, there can be detours and bumpy spots in the road. Learning where the pot holes are makes the journey a little bit smoother.
June Bond is a Certified Adoption Investigator who has published numerous articles on adoption in local, state and national publications. Mother of six chidren, four of whom are adopted, she was recently recognized as South Carolina's Adoption Advocate of the Year for 1995.
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Saturday, July 25, 2009
Exercise after baby...
Believe me I too never knew that I could find time to exercise after my baby was born. I was so tired all the time. Although I did not know that I was suffering from postpartum depression, one thing that my mother kept telling me was, "Get out of the house and start walking." Ok, sounds easy enough, right? Not that easy at first. However, I did find that if I was awake early I did start to go out and take my son, and of course myself, out for a walk around the neighborhood. I spent a lot of time at the mall walking around, and I did try to go to the pool a few times and swim. Even now, three years later, you still never get a full night sleep with a child in the house, but exercise helps with the fatigue. I just started working out again after a year and the fatigue that I was feeling is going away.
So, even if you do not think that you can implement exercise as part of your day, please try. I wish I did it sooner after my son was born. It is hard, but it has its benefits.
Exercise After Baby
July 14th, 2008
Finding time to shower can be a major accomplishment when you have a newborn. But exercise speeds your recovery and helps you shed pregnancy pounds. Here’s how to fit it into your baby’s schedule.
by: Tracey Mallett
Planning Post-Natal Workouts
Post-natal exercise speeds up the recovery process after childbirth and helps give you the energy you need to keep up with the hectic pace of caring for a newborn.
Be patient–once you start exercising it may take a few months, or possibly longer, for you to see the results you want.
To fit in exercise at home, create a library of workout videos that are different lengths so you're equipped when some unexpected time arises.
Use a day planner to loosely plan your workouts around your baby's schedule.
If you start to feel light headed and nauseous, or notice a change in the color of your vaginal discharge, you may be exercising too strenuously.
Related stories
1. Get your Pre-Baby Body Back
2. Should you do Pilates while Pregnant?
3. Benefits of Exercise During Pregnancy
fter childbirth, I was amazed by how much my stomach looked like a deflated balloon. If this is happening to you too, don't panic–your uterus will naturally contract back to its pre-pregnancy shape a few weeks after you give birth. But this alone is not enough to get your pre-pregnancy body back.
Post-natal exercise is the key–it also speeds up the recovery process and offers a whole range of health benefits for new moms. Just be patient because it may take a few months, or possibly longer, depending on how much time you can dedicate to working out. So here's how to find more time to fit exercise into your life with baby.
Benefits of postnatal exercise
Helps reduce post-natal depression.
Is essential for your overall physical health and will help you recover from childbirth and regain your pre-pregnancy body more quickly.
Increases your energy level.
Provides stress release and some time for you to focus on your own needs.
Finding time to exercise
Use a day planner to loosely plan your workouts around your baby's schedule. In the morning after your baby's first feeding, try going for a walk with the baby in the stroller. (Start with flat terrain and progress to different elevations). When your baby goes down for her nap, try taking 15 minutes to do some core conditioning exercises. (Yes, this does require willpower, but when you start seeing results it will keep you inspired to do more.)
Join a "Mommy and Me" exercise class. Check out your local hospital, gym, community centre or pediatrician to find classes. These are a great way to bond with your newborn, meet other new moms and fit in some exercise time for you.
Create a library of exercise videos that are different lengths so you're already equipped for when you find unexpected time.
Perform exercises while you're doing daily activities, such as a couple of yoga poses while you wait for the kettle to boil (downward dog is a great way to relieve an aching back and shoulders). Pelvic floor exercises (Kegels) can be done anywhere and are very valuable for achieving a strong, stable pelvic area, which is usually lax due to pregnancy hormones still present in your body (especially if you're breastfeeding).
Your post-natal exercise regimen
It's important to consult with your doctor before starting an exercise program. What kind of delivery you had will determine how quickly you can resume your exercise routine, but it's generally advised that you wait until your six-week post-natal check up.
Once you get the green light and feel up to a regular exercise routine, I recommend Pilates for core conditioning and weight training and cardio for weight loss. Try to fit in two or three weekly sessions of cardio activity (walking, running and hiking) for 30 to 45 minutes, plus general body conditioning at least three times a week.
Exercise safety tips
Invest in a good support bra. Your breasts are going to be larger than normal from the milk production and will need a lot of extra support.
Be careful of high-impact sports due to lax pelvic ligaments and joints left over from pregnancy. (This is why core abdominal work is key after pregnancy to help prevent lower back and joint injuries).
Make sure you drink lots of water to replenish yourself, especially when breastfeeding.
Listen to your body. If you're feeling tired, go easy on yourself. Try not to push yourself until you feel ready.
If you start to feel light headed and nauseous, or notice a change in the color of your vaginal discharge, consult your doctor. You may be exercising too strenuously.
Enjoy this amazing time with your baby. A little extra weight is a small price to pay for the wonderful new person in your life, so be patient and your body will be back to normal in no time.
Meet our expert:
Tracey Mallett (http://www.traceymallett.com/ is an internationally-recognized certified personal trainer and sports nutritionist. She is the author of "Sexy in 6: Sculpt Your Body with the 6 Minute Quick Blast Workout." Tracey is the creator and star of the "3-In-1 Pregnancy System," for pre- and post-natal mothers. Her newest videos are "Renew You" and "Super Body BootCamp." A proud mother of two, Tracey, lives in Los Angeles.
view blog in real time at www.condron.us and www.alphainventions.com
So, even if you do not think that you can implement exercise as part of your day, please try. I wish I did it sooner after my son was born. It is hard, but it has its benefits.
Exercise After Baby
July 14th, 2008
Finding time to shower can be a major accomplishment when you have a newborn. But exercise speeds your recovery and helps you shed pregnancy pounds. Here’s how to fit it into your baby’s schedule.
by: Tracey Mallett
Planning Post-Natal Workouts
Post-natal exercise speeds up the recovery process after childbirth and helps give you the energy you need to keep up with the hectic pace of caring for a newborn.
Be patient–once you start exercising it may take a few months, or possibly longer, for you to see the results you want.
To fit in exercise at home, create a library of workout videos that are different lengths so you're equipped when some unexpected time arises.
Use a day planner to loosely plan your workouts around your baby's schedule.
If you start to feel light headed and nauseous, or notice a change in the color of your vaginal discharge, you may be exercising too strenuously.
Related stories
1. Get your Pre-Baby Body Back
2. Should you do Pilates while Pregnant?
3. Benefits of Exercise During Pregnancy
fter childbirth, I was amazed by how much my stomach looked like a deflated balloon. If this is happening to you too, don't panic–your uterus will naturally contract back to its pre-pregnancy shape a few weeks after you give birth. But this alone is not enough to get your pre-pregnancy body back.
Post-natal exercise is the key–it also speeds up the recovery process and offers a whole range of health benefits for new moms. Just be patient because it may take a few months, or possibly longer, depending on how much time you can dedicate to working out. So here's how to find more time to fit exercise into your life with baby.
Benefits of postnatal exercise
Helps reduce post-natal depression.
Is essential for your overall physical health and will help you recover from childbirth and regain your pre-pregnancy body more quickly.
Increases your energy level.
Provides stress release and some time for you to focus on your own needs.
Finding time to exercise
Use a day planner to loosely plan your workouts around your baby's schedule. In the morning after your baby's first feeding, try going for a walk with the baby in the stroller. (Start with flat terrain and progress to different elevations). When your baby goes down for her nap, try taking 15 minutes to do some core conditioning exercises. (Yes, this does require willpower, but when you start seeing results it will keep you inspired to do more.)
Join a "Mommy and Me" exercise class. Check out your local hospital, gym, community centre or pediatrician to find classes. These are a great way to bond with your newborn, meet other new moms and fit in some exercise time for you.
Create a library of exercise videos that are different lengths so you're already equipped for when you find unexpected time.
Perform exercises while you're doing daily activities, such as a couple of yoga poses while you wait for the kettle to boil (downward dog is a great way to relieve an aching back and shoulders). Pelvic floor exercises (Kegels) can be done anywhere and are very valuable for achieving a strong, stable pelvic area, which is usually lax due to pregnancy hormones still present in your body (especially if you're breastfeeding).
Your post-natal exercise regimen
It's important to consult with your doctor before starting an exercise program. What kind of delivery you had will determine how quickly you can resume your exercise routine, but it's generally advised that you wait until your six-week post-natal check up.
Once you get the green light and feel up to a regular exercise routine, I recommend Pilates for core conditioning and weight training and cardio for weight loss. Try to fit in two or three weekly sessions of cardio activity (walking, running and hiking) for 30 to 45 minutes, plus general body conditioning at least three times a week.
Exercise safety tips
Invest in a good support bra. Your breasts are going to be larger than normal from the milk production and will need a lot of extra support.
Be careful of high-impact sports due to lax pelvic ligaments and joints left over from pregnancy. (This is why core abdominal work is key after pregnancy to help prevent lower back and joint injuries).
Make sure you drink lots of water to replenish yourself, especially when breastfeeding.
Listen to your body. If you're feeling tired, go easy on yourself. Try not to push yourself until you feel ready.
If you start to feel light headed and nauseous, or notice a change in the color of your vaginal discharge, consult your doctor. You may be exercising too strenuously.
Enjoy this amazing time with your baby. A little extra weight is a small price to pay for the wonderful new person in your life, so be patient and your body will be back to normal in no time.
Meet our expert:
Tracey Mallett (http://www.traceymallett.com/ is an internationally-recognized certified personal trainer and sports nutritionist. She is the author of "Sexy in 6: Sculpt Your Body with the 6 Minute Quick Blast Workout." Tracey is the creator and star of the "3-In-1 Pregnancy System," for pre- and post-natal mothers. Her newest videos are "Renew You" and "Super Body BootCamp." A proud mother of two, Tracey, lives in Los Angeles.
view blog in real time at www.condron.us and www.alphainventions.com
Thursday, July 23, 2009
What to expect when your baby comes home.
This was taken from www.webmd.com Great questions for when you first bring your new baby home and what to expect!
10 Questions About Your Newborn Baby's First Week
New parents have plenty of questions about newborn babies. Be prepared by talking to your doctor.
Bringing a new baby home is an exciting -- and overwhelming -- experience. No matter how prepared you are, you're bound to have many questions about your newborn.
It helps if you have some idea of what issues come up and how to deal with them. Before your baby's birth, or before you leave the hospital, go over this list of questions about newborn baby care with your pediatrician.
1. How can I protect my baby from sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)?
Experts in newborn care say the best way to protect your baby from SIDS is to always put her down to sleep on her back. The rate of SIDS deaths has fallen significantly since the American Academy of Pediatrics launched its "Back to Sleep" campaign. Ask your doctor about other steps you can take to reduce your baby's risk.
2. Will my baby and I bond right away, and what should I do if we don't?
Many parents worry if they aren't overwhelmed by adoration at the first sight of their newborn baby. Try to be patient when it comes to bonding. These early days aren't easy -- for you or your child -- and it will take a while to get to know each other. Talk to your doctor about what to expect.
3. When will my newborn have her first physical exam after we leave the hospital? What will happen at that first checkup?
Most doctors schedule a first checkup at age 2 weeks, especially for the first baby. Ask about vaccines and early screening tests your newborn will receive. All newborn babies need to be checked and begin routine immunizations by age 2 months.
4. How should I care for my baby's umbilical cord stump and circumcision area?
Your doctor can give you detailed directions for caring for your newborn's umbilical stump and circumcision area. Your doctor can also advise you what to watch for in terms of infection.
5. How much will my baby sleep, and how can I tell if he is sleeping too much?
Newborn babies sleep a lot during their early days. Your doctor will be able to tell you what is normal and whether you should wake your baby to feed.
6. How often should my baby eat, and how should I deal with any feeding problems?
Whether you're breast or bottle-feeding, you're likely to have questions. Ask your doctor or hospital staff for names of lactation consultants, in case you have any breastfeeding problems. A qualified consultant in newborn baby care will help you and your baby get off to a good start. Breast milk is the "perfect food" for newborn babies for at least the first four months of life. It provides benefits, such as protecting against infections through the transfer of maternal antibodies, that no formula can.
7. How often will my newborn go to the bathroom, and how will I know if there are problems?
Elimination is right up there with sleeping and eating on a newborn's list of activities. Your doctor can tell you what problems to watch out for.
8. When and how often should I bathe my newborn?
Ask your doctor when you should give your baby her first bath, and about basic infant hygiene. Don't overdo it: newborn babies don't have an opportunity to get very dirty, and too much bathing can irritate delicate skin.
9. How can I tell if my baby has jaundice? Are there other newborn health conditions I should watch out for?
Many newborn babies have mild jaundice because their livers are not fully developed. Ask your doctor about jaundice and other newborn health conditions.
10. When should I call the doctor?
Find out what symptoms or behaviors warrant a call or a visit to the doctor.
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10 Questions About Your Newborn Baby's First Week
New parents have plenty of questions about newborn babies. Be prepared by talking to your doctor.
Bringing a new baby home is an exciting -- and overwhelming -- experience. No matter how prepared you are, you're bound to have many questions about your newborn.
It helps if you have some idea of what issues come up and how to deal with them. Before your baby's birth, or before you leave the hospital, go over this list of questions about newborn baby care with your pediatrician.
1. How can I protect my baby from sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)?
Experts in newborn care say the best way to protect your baby from SIDS is to always put her down to sleep on her back. The rate of SIDS deaths has fallen significantly since the American Academy of Pediatrics launched its "Back to Sleep" campaign. Ask your doctor about other steps you can take to reduce your baby's risk.
2. Will my baby and I bond right away, and what should I do if we don't?
Many parents worry if they aren't overwhelmed by adoration at the first sight of their newborn baby. Try to be patient when it comes to bonding. These early days aren't easy -- for you or your child -- and it will take a while to get to know each other. Talk to your doctor about what to expect.
3. When will my newborn have her first physical exam after we leave the hospital? What will happen at that first checkup?
Most doctors schedule a first checkup at age 2 weeks, especially for the first baby. Ask about vaccines and early screening tests your newborn will receive. All newborn babies need to be checked and begin routine immunizations by age 2 months.
4. How should I care for my baby's umbilical cord stump and circumcision area?
Your doctor can give you detailed directions for caring for your newborn's umbilical stump and circumcision area. Your doctor can also advise you what to watch for in terms of infection.
5. How much will my baby sleep, and how can I tell if he is sleeping too much?
Newborn babies sleep a lot during their early days. Your doctor will be able to tell you what is normal and whether you should wake your baby to feed.
6. How often should my baby eat, and how should I deal with any feeding problems?
Whether you're breast or bottle-feeding, you're likely to have questions. Ask your doctor or hospital staff for names of lactation consultants, in case you have any breastfeeding problems. A qualified consultant in newborn baby care will help you and your baby get off to a good start. Breast milk is the "perfect food" for newborn babies for at least the first four months of life. It provides benefits, such as protecting against infections through the transfer of maternal antibodies, that no formula can.
7. How often will my newborn go to the bathroom, and how will I know if there are problems?
Elimination is right up there with sleeping and eating on a newborn's list of activities. Your doctor can tell you what problems to watch out for.
8. When and how often should I bathe my newborn?
Ask your doctor when you should give your baby her first bath, and about basic infant hygiene. Don't overdo it: newborn babies don't have an opportunity to get very dirty, and too much bathing can irritate delicate skin.
9. How can I tell if my baby has jaundice? Are there other newborn health conditions I should watch out for?
Many newborn babies have mild jaundice because their livers are not fully developed. Ask your doctor about jaundice and other newborn health conditions.
10. When should I call the doctor?
Find out what symptoms or behaviors warrant a call or a visit to the doctor.
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Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Governor Quinn Proclaims May 2009 Postpartum Mood Disorders Awareness Month in Illinois
Article taken from Postpartum International Quarterly Newsletter. Second Quarter, 2009 Volume XX, Issue 2
Governor Quinn Proclaims May 2009 Postpartum Mood Disorders Awareness Month in Illinois
Chicago, Illinois – Illinois GovernorPat Quinn proclaimed May 2009 Postpartum Mood Disorders Awareness Month in order to raise awareness of the common illness experienced by moms and moms-to-be.“I am proud to declare May 2009 as Postpartum Mood Disorders Awareness Month in Illinois. By increasing public awareness of these disorders, we can identify women who will benefit from treatment, saving them from unnecessary distress and suffering,” said Governor Quinn.In Illinois, the Postpartum DepressionIllinois Alliance (PPD IL) works to promote awareness, prevention and treatment of maternal mental health issues throughout the state. PPD IL offers ahelpline (847-205-4455) and website(www.PPDil.org) for women and their families so they can learn more aboutpregnancy & postpartum mood disorders and access local resources such as support groups and trained healthcare providers.“We want women to realize that theyare not alone, they are not to blame andwith help, you can be well again,” said Dr.Sarah Allen, Chair of PPD IL Alliance.
The PPD IL Alliance has chosen May, as it is home to Mother’s Day, to educate women and their families and friends about the nature of this illness. Approximately 15% to 20% of pregnant women and 15%of new mothers experience major or minor depression in the first year after giving birth. Symptoms differ for everyone but may include:• Many worries and panic attacks• Feelings of sadness, fear, anger and guilt• Possible thoughts of harming the babyor oneself• Lack of interest in the baby• Appetite & sleep disturbance• Difficulty concentrating and making decisions.
“In this day and age, I think it’s deplorable that so many women still haveto suffer in shame and silence with a disorder that, when identified and treated early, does not have to be an impediment to a woman and her family’s ability to enjoy the birth of a child,” said U. S. Rep. BobbyL. Rush (D-IL) who recently re-introducedH.R. 20, the Melanie Blocker Stokes MOTHERS Act of2009. “I lend my voice and full support of the work of the PPD IL Alliance and other groups throughout our state and nation who are as committed as I am to working to ensure that all new mothers get the support they need to ensure that this special time of their lives is a safe, healthy and happy one.”
Symptoms of depression and anxiety occur in up to 20% of expectant and new moms, making these the most common complication of pregnancy, affecting nearly 1million women every year in the United States alone. Yet despite their prevalence,perinatal mood and anxietydisorders are under-detected by health care professionals and many women go without treatment.
Vanessa, a survivor of PPD describes her experience:“I was diagnosed with postpartum depression 6 weeks after the birth of my son. I was sleep deprived, anxious, short tempered with my family, and plagued by horrible intrusive thoughts of my infant son falling over the balcony, or falling down the stairs. I also couldn’t look at knives and had to hide them away. I was so horrified by the vivid pictures of this in my head. As a result of these thoughts I could barely eat and was always nervous and anxious.“I knew this was not how itwas supposed to be since Ialready had a 5 year old daughter and never suffered from these symptoms after her birth. I was afraid to be with my children alone so decidedto stay with my mom for a few weeks. With medication and talk therapy I began my way to recovery. My saving grace was an online support group. I was able to read the feelings of others suffering and post my own. I felt an instant bond and was so thankful.
I made apromise to myself and God that if I got through this horrible illness, I would help others. I was able to come off my antidepressant medication after 9 months and I became a moderator for PPDsupportpage.com and a telephone helpline volunteer for the PPD IL Alliance. My son is now 4 years old and Ifeel that time in my life was a blur. I make sure I spread the word about PPD and how common it really is. I feel that this illness was dealt to me for a positive reason. I am able to touch others that suffer and tell them that it isn’t a life sentence. PPD can be treated and cured.” PPD IL Alliance is the Illinois subsidiary of Postpartum Support International, the world’sl argest non-profit organization supporting women with perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
For more informationabout pregnancy &postpartum mood disorders& PPMD Awareness month
Contact: Dr. Sarah Allen,Chair IL PPD Alliance847 791-7722sarahfcallen@comcast.net.
follow blog in real time at www.condron.us or www.alphainventions.com
Governor Quinn Proclaims May 2009 Postpartum Mood Disorders Awareness Month in Illinois
Chicago, Illinois – Illinois GovernorPat Quinn proclaimed May 2009 Postpartum Mood Disorders Awareness Month in order to raise awareness of the common illness experienced by moms and moms-to-be.“I am proud to declare May 2009 as Postpartum Mood Disorders Awareness Month in Illinois. By increasing public awareness of these disorders, we can identify women who will benefit from treatment, saving them from unnecessary distress and suffering,” said Governor Quinn.In Illinois, the Postpartum DepressionIllinois Alliance (PPD IL) works to promote awareness, prevention and treatment of maternal mental health issues throughout the state. PPD IL offers ahelpline (847-205-4455) and website(www.PPDil.org) for women and their families so they can learn more aboutpregnancy & postpartum mood disorders and access local resources such as support groups and trained healthcare providers.“We want women to realize that theyare not alone, they are not to blame andwith help, you can be well again,” said Dr.Sarah Allen, Chair of PPD IL Alliance.
The PPD IL Alliance has chosen May, as it is home to Mother’s Day, to educate women and their families and friends about the nature of this illness. Approximately 15% to 20% of pregnant women and 15%of new mothers experience major or minor depression in the first year after giving birth. Symptoms differ for everyone but may include:• Many worries and panic attacks• Feelings of sadness, fear, anger and guilt• Possible thoughts of harming the babyor oneself• Lack of interest in the baby• Appetite & sleep disturbance• Difficulty concentrating and making decisions.
“In this day and age, I think it’s deplorable that so many women still haveto suffer in shame and silence with a disorder that, when identified and treated early, does not have to be an impediment to a woman and her family’s ability to enjoy the birth of a child,” said U. S. Rep. BobbyL. Rush (D-IL) who recently re-introducedH.R. 20, the Melanie Blocker Stokes MOTHERS Act of2009. “I lend my voice and full support of the work of the PPD IL Alliance and other groups throughout our state and nation who are as committed as I am to working to ensure that all new mothers get the support they need to ensure that this special time of their lives is a safe, healthy and happy one.”
Symptoms of depression and anxiety occur in up to 20% of expectant and new moms, making these the most common complication of pregnancy, affecting nearly 1million women every year in the United States alone. Yet despite their prevalence,perinatal mood and anxietydisorders are under-detected by health care professionals and many women go without treatment.
Vanessa, a survivor of PPD describes her experience:“I was diagnosed with postpartum depression 6 weeks after the birth of my son. I was sleep deprived, anxious, short tempered with my family, and plagued by horrible intrusive thoughts of my infant son falling over the balcony, or falling down the stairs. I also couldn’t look at knives and had to hide them away. I was so horrified by the vivid pictures of this in my head. As a result of these thoughts I could barely eat and was always nervous and anxious.“I knew this was not how itwas supposed to be since Ialready had a 5 year old daughter and never suffered from these symptoms after her birth. I was afraid to be with my children alone so decidedto stay with my mom for a few weeks. With medication and talk therapy I began my way to recovery. My saving grace was an online support group. I was able to read the feelings of others suffering and post my own. I felt an instant bond and was so thankful.
I made apromise to myself and God that if I got through this horrible illness, I would help others. I was able to come off my antidepressant medication after 9 months and I became a moderator for PPDsupportpage.com and a telephone helpline volunteer for the PPD IL Alliance. My son is now 4 years old and Ifeel that time in my life was a blur. I make sure I spread the word about PPD and how common it really is. I feel that this illness was dealt to me for a positive reason. I am able to touch others that suffer and tell them that it isn’t a life sentence. PPD can be treated and cured.” PPD IL Alliance is the Illinois subsidiary of Postpartum Support International, the world’sl argest non-profit organization supporting women with perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
For more informationabout pregnancy &postpartum mood disorders& PPMD Awareness month
Contact: Dr. Sarah Allen,Chair IL PPD Alliance847 791-7722sarahfcallen@comcast.net.
follow blog in real time at www.condron.us or www.alphainventions.com
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
For moms who want to change the world....
I just found this website.http://www.momsrising.org/ click the link and sign the petition. They also have lots of information for Moms out there..check it out!
When we read the Wall Street Journal article this week in which the former CEO of GE, Jack Welch, states there's "no such thing as work-life balance," our blood really started boiling.No such thing!? What we want to know is, "Why not already?"We're tired of people bemoaning that work-life balance isn't possible, while there are real-life solutions in the form of family-friendly policies at our disposal--policies which also up the corporate fiscal bottom line by helping to retain and advance women. Yes, it's true: Recent research underscores that having women in leadership is correlated with improving the fiscal bottom line for businesses1.Join us in asking the CEOs of the leading Fortune 500 companies to take action and put policies in place which enable women to advance to the top in their careers and also take care of their families.Click here now to sign the letter: http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/o/1768/t/1878/petition.jsp?petition_KEY=1926
CEOs--and former CEOs who are business thought leaders--aren't innocent bystanders as we all struggle with work-life balance. They have the power to do something about it by making significant changes in the workplaces they oversee.Our economy now depends on the millions of women who work outside the home, and the vast majority of these women are mothers. In fact, women now make up almost half of the workforce and obtain more than 50% of college degrees2. With this information in mind, a big question comes forward: Why have so many workplaces failed to catch up to 21st Century realities when there are win-win solutions available? The answer: Too many employers don't understand the benefits of having family-friendly policies like flexible work options and paid family leave which can simultaneously increase productivity, as well as attract and retain high quality employees.This isn't just rhetoric. Recent studies show that companies with women in leadership are actually doing better fiscally even in this tough economic environment. For example, a Pepperdine University study found that Fortune 500 companies with the best track records for having women in leadership roles fiscally outperformed industry medians as measured by revenue, asset growth, and equity. Other studies found that hedge funds with women in leadership did significantly better over time3.Don't forget to sign on to our open letter to the top CEOs of Fortune 500 companies. We're asking them to take the initiative to implement company policies which address the needs of the modern workforce, of which women - and mothers - can be key contributors to their fiscal success.Sign the letter: http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=VY6%2FkEL4OqkxwfG%2FEc%2F6YNmLDNnrhAQUWe need 10,000 signatures by NEXT Wednesday the 22nd so we can make sure the letter gets in the hands of these CEOs by National Parents' Day (July 26). We can't think of a better way to celebrate that day than by handing over a letter with so many thousands of signatures that it can't be ignored.The more signatures, the more effective we'll be - so tell your friends, tell your family, tell your co-workers. Together we can make work-life balance better for every mom.Onwards!Kristin, Joan, Mary, Katie, Sarah and the rest of the MomsRising TeamP.S. Everyone needs to be able to structure their work lives in a way that allows them to meet both business and personal needs. Fact is, good work/life fit is of value to everyone and as a consequence it is good for business. MomsRising has a growing resource for both businesses and individuals interested in the ever greater opportunities to realize this ideal. Check them out at http://www.momsrising.org/work
[1]http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=RzorURenJVGNmNAJ31gQXdmLDNnrhAQU and http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=NDNkfZoShpk2CuzS%2Fo7nu9mLDNnrhAQU[2]U.S. Department of Labor http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=AvJ4JIIQ8E%2Fu25VC7OumZ9mLDNnrhAQU andU.S. Department of Education, http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=oPGZr9bvQzMEtJcouCVZ49mLDNnrhAQU[3]http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=fwaVKiyZJ408iJTBccyTk9mLDNnrhAQU and http://www.miller-mccune.com/business_economics/profit-thy-name-is-woman-1007
check out blogs in realtime at http://www.condron.us/ and http://www.alphainventions.com/
When we read the Wall Street Journal article this week in which the former CEO of GE, Jack Welch, states there's "no such thing as work-life balance," our blood really started boiling.No such thing!? What we want to know is, "Why not already?"We're tired of people bemoaning that work-life balance isn't possible, while there are real-life solutions in the form of family-friendly policies at our disposal--policies which also up the corporate fiscal bottom line by helping to retain and advance women. Yes, it's true: Recent research underscores that having women in leadership is correlated with improving the fiscal bottom line for businesses1.Join us in asking the CEOs of the leading Fortune 500 companies to take action and put policies in place which enable women to advance to the top in their careers and also take care of their families.Click here now to sign the letter: http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/o/1768/t/1878/petition.jsp?petition_KEY=1926
CEOs--and former CEOs who are business thought leaders--aren't innocent bystanders as we all struggle with work-life balance. They have the power to do something about it by making significant changes in the workplaces they oversee.Our economy now depends on the millions of women who work outside the home, and the vast majority of these women are mothers. In fact, women now make up almost half of the workforce and obtain more than 50% of college degrees2. With this information in mind, a big question comes forward: Why have so many workplaces failed to catch up to 21st Century realities when there are win-win solutions available? The answer: Too many employers don't understand the benefits of having family-friendly policies like flexible work options and paid family leave which can simultaneously increase productivity, as well as attract and retain high quality employees.This isn't just rhetoric. Recent studies show that companies with women in leadership are actually doing better fiscally even in this tough economic environment. For example, a Pepperdine University study found that Fortune 500 companies with the best track records for having women in leadership roles fiscally outperformed industry medians as measured by revenue, asset growth, and equity. Other studies found that hedge funds with women in leadership did significantly better over time3.Don't forget to sign on to our open letter to the top CEOs of Fortune 500 companies. We're asking them to take the initiative to implement company policies which address the needs of the modern workforce, of which women - and mothers - can be key contributors to their fiscal success.Sign the letter: http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=VY6%2FkEL4OqkxwfG%2FEc%2F6YNmLDNnrhAQUWe need 10,000 signatures by NEXT Wednesday the 22nd so we can make sure the letter gets in the hands of these CEOs by National Parents' Day (July 26). We can't think of a better way to celebrate that day than by handing over a letter with so many thousands of signatures that it can't be ignored.The more signatures, the more effective we'll be - so tell your friends, tell your family, tell your co-workers. Together we can make work-life balance better for every mom.Onwards!Kristin, Joan, Mary, Katie, Sarah and the rest of the MomsRising TeamP.S. Everyone needs to be able to structure their work lives in a way that allows them to meet both business and personal needs. Fact is, good work/life fit is of value to everyone and as a consequence it is good for business. MomsRising has a growing resource for both businesses and individuals interested in the ever greater opportunities to realize this ideal. Check them out at http://www.momsrising.org/work
[1]http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=RzorURenJVGNmNAJ31gQXdmLDNnrhAQU and http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=NDNkfZoShpk2CuzS%2Fo7nu9mLDNnrhAQU[2]U.S. Department of Labor http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=AvJ4JIIQ8E%2Fu25VC7OumZ9mLDNnrhAQU andU.S. Department of Education, http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=oPGZr9bvQzMEtJcouCVZ49mLDNnrhAQU[3]http://momsrising.democracyinaction.org/dia/track.jsp?v=2&c=fwaVKiyZJ408iJTBccyTk9mLDNnrhAQU and http://www.miller-mccune.com/business_economics/profit-thy-name-is-woman-1007
check out blogs in realtime at http://www.condron.us/ and http://www.alphainventions.com/
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